Over a year ago I was firmly in the Buffy is 100% het camp. Last week I crossed out the "I don't ship Buffy & Tara" line in my Welcome post. When it's this nice? Oh yes please pass that pint of ice cream back.
I *never* shipped Tara/Willow
I'm really torn about those two. There are aspects of them I do appreciate, I honestly do but the bottom line is, I didn't appreciate Tara for herself until I got to Season 6. Until she yelled "My god what is wrong with you!" Until she left. Then she became magnificent. (Fuck you, Joss.)
I don't hate Willow; a part of me is very much like her. And a part of me is Buffy, and another Tara, I identify in some way with all of them. I remember that they are all children with horrid or nonexistent role models, Willow no less so than the others.
But I don't LOVE Willow. I don't hang out at the Willow/Tara boards because I love Tara for herself, not as "half" of a ship; and I'm pretty sure that being in those spaces would require me to shut my eyes to the negative aspects of that relationship, pretending that certain things didn't happen. And I just can't do that. I actually respect the fact that they portrayed a lesbian relationship with abusive aspects because that's real, not the Lilith Faire hetero married women's fantasy (that OMWF actually mocks IMO and that gets missed.)
Then again I don't (can't) (won't) ship Buffy/Willow either and I know a lot of people who do.
I commented regarding to class warfare on another thread somewhere so I won't repeat except to say: AMEN.
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Date: 2014-10-10 08:02 pm (UTC)Over a year ago I was firmly in the Buffy is 100% het camp. Last week I crossed out the "I don't ship Buffy & Tara" line in my Welcome post. When it's this nice? Oh yes please pass that pint of ice cream back.
I *never* shipped Tara/Willow
I'm really torn about those two. There are aspects of them I do appreciate, I honestly do but the bottom line is, I didn't appreciate Tara for herself until I got to Season 6. Until she yelled "My god what is wrong with you!" Until she left. Then she became magnificent. (Fuck you, Joss.)
I don't hate Willow; a part of me is very much like her. And a part of me is Buffy, and another Tara, I identify in some way with all of them. I remember that they are all children with horrid or nonexistent role models, Willow no less so than the others.
But I don't LOVE Willow. I don't hang out at the Willow/Tara boards because I love Tara for herself, not as "half" of a ship; and I'm pretty sure that being in those spaces would require me to shut my eyes to the negative aspects of that relationship, pretending that certain things didn't happen. And I just can't do that. I actually respect the fact that they portrayed a lesbian relationship with abusive aspects because that's real, not the Lilith Faire hetero married women's fantasy (that OMWF actually mocks IMO and that gets missed.)
Then again I don't (can't) (won't) ship Buffy/Willow either and I know a lot of people who do.
I commented regarding to class warfare on another thread somewhere so I won't repeat except to say: AMEN.