This is another tangent, but your reference to I know you better than you know yourself assumptions pinged with me. I always find it really disconcerting when people make odd assumptions about me, and the closer the relationship, the more dissonant when the assumption is off target. I used to think it was just guys trying to overlay their picture of ideal womanhood or something. It made things very simple. If a guy ever said, "You're the kind of girl who _____________." Well, that guy was not going to get any traction with me. (The blank could be anything. "Likes canned vegetables" was one. Huh?)

But I have a very good girlfriend who is still puzzled that I never showed any romantic interest in a mutual friend of ours. And, well, that was never going to happen, so I have to wonder how someone who seems to know me so well could get it so wrong. IDK.