I just wanted to reiterate that I agree with everything you say and support you in your rage because yes, the way female characters are treated in fandom is shitty. I've been just playing the devil's advocate here. The fact that women are used to serve male narratives is shitty. I don't want to be Pepper Potts. Pepper is great, but why can't a woman be Iron Man? So no argument with anything you say. I may not be as passionate as you are - and you're passionate for wonderful reasons - but I want the same female-centric narratives you want. I want women to stop being friged. I want media to pay attention to f/f ships. I want ladies to have relationships with each other that don't revolve around a man. I want Alison Bechdel to be happy with how media is portraying women. That won't be happening over night, but we can rally around stories that center on women (I got red_satin_doll watching Veronica Mars and Orphan Black, so that's a win for me).

Anyway, I just feel bad that this hurts you so much. But I'm here to support you in your pained rage.

ILY.