Thank you! And I forgot to thank you for being so kind and giving me permission to talk about the icons and how I made them **edits post** There, all fixed now!
And as I mentioned to Gabrielle upthread I did NOT intend to write any of that personal stuff, at all, when I started the post.
Life tells me it's life.
Oh yes, exactly so!
I suspect that the lack of support structures (extended multigenerational families, clans, church groups and a strong belief in a god, etc) has a lot to do with it, or does it? What about traditional Japanese culture, Amish, Mormon, kids in Africa and China, etc? I don't have a point of comparison.
It would be interesting to compare kids from entirely different cultures - by which I mean european (which includes you and I) to other parts of the world. In some places and times they don't even have a concept for "adolescence" which is really quite a "modern" development esp to the 20th century. It was childhood to adulthood when people married and were having babies by age 14 and often dead by the age of 40 and nothing in between.
Partly because children are very self centered, constructed that way by nature to ensure their survival
I can still remember the best illustration of this - being two years old and slamming my brothers finger into the cabinet door hinge, then fussing at him for not pulling his finger out when he was screaming. My brain literally DID NOT PROCESS the concept that I was the cause of his pain. At all. I remember that so vividly. So yes, children are self-centered little creatures.
I don't know what's more frightful - losing all of that and nearly drowing in guilt/shame/whatever, or NOT losing any of that. (Yes am I thinking of the folks who stole your artwork recently. That to me is the epitome of still being in that utterly selfish infantile state, lacking any empathy whatsoever.)
There are no Brady bunch families. There are just some which are less fractured than others. Have I mentioned lately that you are awesome? I want this on a bumper sticker. Or a shopping bag that I can show off to EVERYONE when I'm out and about.
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Date: 2014-03-04 08:47 pm (UTC)And as I mentioned to Gabrielle upthread I did NOT intend to write any of that personal stuff, at all, when I started the post.
Life tells me it's life.
Oh yes, exactly so!
I suspect that the lack of support structures (extended multigenerational families, clans, church groups and a strong belief in a god, etc) has a lot to do with it, or does it? What about traditional Japanese culture, Amish, Mormon, kids in Africa and China, etc? I don't have a point of comparison.
It would be interesting to compare kids from entirely different cultures - by which I mean european (which includes you and I) to other parts of the world. In some places and times they don't even have a concept for "adolescence" which is really quite a "modern" development esp to the 20th century. It was childhood to adulthood when people married and were having babies by age 14 and often dead by the age of 40 and nothing in between.
Partly because children are very self centered, constructed that way by nature to ensure their survival
I can still remember the best illustration of this - being two years old and slamming my brothers finger into the cabinet door hinge, then fussing at him for not pulling his finger out when he was screaming. My brain literally DID NOT PROCESS the concept that I was the cause of his pain. At all. I remember that so vividly. So yes, children are self-centered little creatures.
I don't know what's more frightful - losing all of that and nearly drowing in guilt/shame/whatever, or NOT losing any of that. (Yes am I thinking of the folks who stole your artwork recently. That to me is the epitome of still being in that utterly selfish infantile state, lacking any empathy whatsoever.)
There are no Brady bunch families. There are just some which are less fractured than others.
Have I mentioned lately that you are awesome? I want this on a bumper sticker. Or a shopping bag that I can show off to EVERYONE when I'm out and about.