I didn't mean to imply that he doesn't tear his girls up. He does indeed get into everyone and makes them all quite human and I really think that's why we love the show - we can identify. And sometimes validate and sometimes feel better about a weakness because one of our heroes went through it.

As for Riley, I should have mentioned that I was so not into the whole vamp bite thing and I didn't see that as stepping out on Buffy, so much as a drug type problem. Riley did not get developed much but the whole man in charge, taking care thing, So not required these days when physical strength takes a back seat to other strengths and men are changing because of it. And so are women. It's a slow process. But I really thought that Riley/Buffy was a crack at that whole paradigm because it was and is so very topical and part of the whole 'female no longer the victim thing'.