Most of my fandom experience has been female-centric, so while I know that there's a male-bias out there, I'm always bemused by/ ignore it.

That said - communities are wonderful places and one that centers on Buffy ladies is a lovely thing indeed. Not sure how much I can be of service (and honestly I don't really understand what you are planning yet) so I can't commit to anything atm/near future b/c of RL stuff - but I'm waving pompoms in the general direction of this possibility and hope to be there in full armor when the time comes.