Thank you for the compliment re: my icons, I'm glad you like! And I apologize for delay in answering, your comments about Buffy's sexuality inspired some thinky-thoughts. (Have you read Gabrielleabelle's meta Buffy's Bad Sex Life btw? that focuses on the way the show "punishes" Buffy for her sexuality and convey a rather sex-negative message for women which is different to what we're saying here.)
fanons that make her ignorant or prudish
WTTH: she encourages Willow to "seize the day"; Becoming flashback to Hemery High "Tyler would have to crawl on his hands and knees.."; the short skirts and revealing clothes in S1-2; dancing at the Bronze (esp WSWB, School Hard, Bad Girls); kissing Angel; Surprise; Helpless (sparing as a substitute for sex) and Bangel pretty much all of S3; Parker (in whatever ep that was); The I in Team (I'm one of those in the minority who think that the Briley sex in that ep was pretty damn hot)...need I go on? (this would probably make a fun meta post.)
I suspect might be the belief of some Spuffy (re: Spike) fans who interpret Buffy's secretiveness about her relationship with Spike as a sign that she's a prude? I don't know where you stand on this but as far as I can tell it's not the actual activities that she's ashamed off (and is no else's business anyway).
In-story: I think it's Faith who makes the judgement about Buffy being "prudish" but let's consider the point of reference here. *lol* She says it verbally at least to Spike in Dirty Girls and he says something like "you have been gone a long time" but that presumes that Faith was right at first but Buffy has "changed" since then; which isn't true either. And I think it's significant that both Faith and Spike feel or felt at various times that she didn't respond to them the way THEY wanted her to, but that's not the same as being a prude.
The other extreme I see is the numerous Spuffy fics that portray their relationship in S6 after Smashed as being ALL ABOUT THE SEX and nothing else, and its always empty, unpleasant, violent and Buffy is always staring off into space, always distant and vacant; basically, she's a sex addict. And I don't see that either, even on Buffy's side; the "we missed the bed - again" scene, or the two of them playing cards in OAFA (until Spike shoots his mouth off at Richard), indicate otherwise, as does the bit in Sleeper when the bouncer calls Spike a "Billy Idol wanna-be" and Buffy says, "Actually Billy Idol stole his look..." That implies that the two of them had conversations we never got to see. Well of course they did. (Besides, if THE SEX was the only thing Buffy was after in S6, she could have gone to any stranger for that, the way Parker does; she's not after notches on her belt.)
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Date: 2014-01-08 03:25 pm (UTC)fanons that make her ignorant or prudish
WTTH: she encourages Willow to "seize the day"; Becoming flashback to Hemery High "Tyler would have to crawl on his hands and knees.."; the short skirts and revealing clothes in S1-2; dancing at the Bronze (esp WSWB, School Hard, Bad Girls); kissing Angel; Surprise; Helpless (sparing as a substitute for sex) and Bangel pretty much all of S3; Parker (in whatever ep that was); The I in Team (I'm one of those in the minority who think that the Briley sex in that ep was pretty damn hot)...need I go on? (this would probably make a fun meta post.)
I suspect might be the belief of some Spuffy (re: Spike) fans who interpret Buffy's secretiveness about her relationship with Spike as a sign that she's a prude? I don't know where you stand on this but as far as I can tell it's not the actual activities that she's ashamed off (and is no else's business anyway).
In-story: I think it's Faith who makes the judgement about Buffy being "prudish" but let's consider the point of reference here. *lol* She says it verbally at least to Spike in Dirty Girls and he says something like "you have been gone a long time" but that presumes that Faith was right at first but Buffy has "changed" since then; which isn't true either. And I think it's significant that both Faith and Spike feel or felt at various times that she didn't respond to them the way THEY wanted her to, but that's not the same as being a prude.
The other extreme I see is the numerous Spuffy fics that portray their relationship in S6 after Smashed as being ALL ABOUT THE SEX and nothing else, and its always empty, unpleasant, violent and Buffy is always staring off into space, always distant and vacant; basically, she's a sex addict. And I don't see that either, even on Buffy's side; the "we missed the bed - again" scene, or the two of them playing cards in OAFA (until Spike shoots his mouth off at Richard), indicate otherwise, as does the bit in Sleeper when the bouncer calls Spike a "Billy Idol wanna-be" and Buffy says, "Actually Billy Idol stole his look..." That implies that the two of them had conversations we never got to see. Well of course they did. (Besides, if THE SEX was the only thing Buffy was after in S6, she could have gone to any stranger for that, the way Parker does; she's not after notches on her belt.)