OMG NO you SO didn't offend me! I admit I was curious and wondered "Reformed? Orthodox? etc?" But that just seemed sort of silly and beside the point. (or maybe I was worried about offending.)
I'm not sure if it's about being "PC" at all, just wanting to be sensitive. (And in my case I have a horrible "need to please" - because of my upbringing, being able to sense moods is a survival technique - but also, low self-esteem and all that; the other side of my see-saw is a certain bluntness and damned the torpedoes and full speed ahead attitude that's gotten me in trouble more than once! *lol*)
Well I think it's better than the other way around.
Yes, I don't think there's anything wrong with erring on the side of consideration and respect. We get there eventually. ( I've occasionally heard someone say that someone else is "too PC" used as a justification for being insensitive/racist/etc and not wanting anything to change.)
It would be like if there was a national holiday for heterosexual marriages and everyone talked about it for a month and complete strangers constantly asked you what your husband was going to get you
You mean that DOESN'T actually happen the minute you get that engagement ring on your finger? *lol* But your marriage analogy fits quite well on one level. As a legal and religious institution it's like a shop window I occasionally get to peek into but I can't walk inside and buy anything. And there isn't a national holiday for it per se, but in the spring all the newspapers and magazines have their obligatory "wedding issue" to prep people (re: the dollar signs) for June weddings; then you read about benefits straight couples have legally that you don't get to enjoy, yadda yadda.
OTOH I think there is a difference in that we can each presumably (once we're adults) chose what if any religion to practice, how to spend our holidays and so forth; whereas the institution of marriage (legally and religiously) is not something I am even allowed to chose, except in a few states and even then it's mostly symbolic (unless you actually are a state employee, or live somewhere like Massachusetts that instituted statewide health insurance that includes couples married in the state.)
So, yeah, complicated!
I'm in Minneapolis btw.
*shivers* Native or transplant?
I grew up in Michigan (suburbs of Detroit) and when I moved to NOrth Carolina I kept hearing OMG it's so cold there! As if I'd grown up on a frozen tundra! The thing about growing up in a "cold" place is there's always someplace you think of as colder - and Minneapolis is one of those places for me. (Along with Buffalo and Wisconsin.) I base this on friend's descriptions of Wisconsin and you're right on the state border aren't you? Do you get a lot of winds off the lakes?
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Date: 2013-12-24 09:14 pm (UTC)I'm not sure if it's about being "PC" at all, just wanting to be sensitive. (And in my case I have a horrible "need to please" - because of my upbringing, being able to sense moods is a survival technique - but also, low self-esteem and all that; the other side of my see-saw is a certain bluntness and damned the torpedoes and full speed ahead attitude that's gotten me in trouble more than once! *lol*)
Well I think it's better than the other way around.
Yes, I don't think there's anything wrong with erring on the side of consideration and respect. We get there eventually. ( I've occasionally heard someone say that someone else is "too PC" used as a justification for being insensitive/racist/etc and not wanting anything to change.)
It would be like if there was a national holiday for heterosexual marriages and everyone talked about it for a month and complete strangers constantly asked you what your husband was going to get you
You mean that DOESN'T actually happen the minute you get that engagement ring on your finger? *lol* But your marriage analogy fits quite well on one level. As a legal and religious institution it's like a shop window I occasionally get to peek into but I can't walk inside and buy anything. And there isn't a national holiday for it per se, but in the spring all the newspapers and magazines have their obligatory "wedding issue" to prep people (re: the dollar signs) for June weddings; then you read about benefits straight couples have legally that you don't get to enjoy, yadda yadda.
OTOH I think there is a difference in that we can each presumably (once we're adults) chose what if any religion to practice, how to spend our holidays and so forth; whereas the institution of marriage (legally and religiously) is not something I am even allowed to chose, except in a few states and even then it's mostly symbolic (unless you actually are a state employee, or live somewhere like Massachusetts that instituted statewide health insurance that includes couples married in the state.)
So, yeah, complicated!
I'm in Minneapolis btw.
*shivers* Native or transplant?
I grew up in Michigan (suburbs of Detroit) and when I moved to NOrth Carolina I kept hearing OMG it's so cold there! As if I'd grown up on a frozen tundra! The thing about growing up in a "cold" place is there's always someplace you think of as colder - and Minneapolis is one of those places for me. (Along with Buffalo and Wisconsin.) I base this on friend's descriptions of Wisconsin and you're right on the state border aren't you? Do you get a lot of winds off the lakes?