I feel so warm and fuzzy about it, really! I'm just unused to being anything but a lurker. ♥
*lol* I'm glad you came out I'm always happy to chat with you! BTW, I really thought I had already replied to this. Oh well - this is why my inbox is so full.
I'll avoid it in the future, but if I do end up doing it -- let's say all caps and smileys are a pretty good indicator I'm kidding? Sorry for scaring you. /hugs
Oh no, please don't! I have a very dry and ironic (read: sarcastic) sense of humor myself, so I should remember to read the entire damn reply before I react. Because I don't want you to "hold back" on that. *hugs back*
that action, and acts of service to others is just how Buffy does love. She's not very verbal about it.
in that the fact that she is a woman, a person usually expected to be emotional and emotionally open, serves to starkly set off just what that kind of life does to a person. I feel when male characters act standoffish and emotionless, it's much less noticeable because, well, that's how we expect them to act.
YES, SO MUCH TO THIS. And conversely, when women are warm and caring (and take on all the responsibilities for childcare etc) it's expected; a father watches his kids and it's called "babysittiing". And Buffy gets it from both directions, as do a lot of single moms IMO. Or the Tara in Tough Love vs Spike in Intervention comparison.
Here I'll show my personal bias, but I'm not personally interested in more stories about dude heroes and their manpain. :P
I've been told several times that I "Must" watch AtS, and I'm just not interested. I've grown up my whole life with male-centric stories.
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Date: 2013-06-28 08:21 pm (UTC)*lol* I'm glad you came out I'm always happy to chat with you! BTW, I really thought I had already replied to this. Oh well - this is why my inbox is so full.
I'll avoid it in the future, but if I do end up doing it -- let's say all caps and smileys are a pretty good indicator I'm kidding? Sorry for scaring you. /hugs
Oh no, please don't! I have a very dry and ironic (read: sarcastic) sense of humor myself, so I should remember to read the entire damn reply before I react. Because I don't want you to "hold back" on that. *hugs back*
that action, and acts of service to others is just how Buffy does love. She's not very verbal about it.
Did I link to these metas already? Best EVAH
http://gabrielleabelle.livejournal.com/272405.html
http://gabrielleabelle.livejournal.com/273029.html
in that the fact that she is a woman, a person usually expected to be emotional and emotionally open, serves to starkly set off just what that kind of life does to a person. I feel when male characters act standoffish and emotionless, it's much less noticeable because, well, that's how we expect them to act.
YES, SO MUCH TO THIS. And conversely, when women are warm and caring (and take on all the responsibilities for childcare etc) it's expected; a father watches his kids and it's called "babysittiing". And Buffy gets it from both directions, as do a lot of single moms IMO. Or the Tara in Tough Love vs Spike in Intervention comparison.
Here I'll show my personal bias, but I'm not personally interested in more stories about dude heroes and their manpain. :P
I've been told several times that I "Must" watch AtS, and I'm just not interested. I've grown up my whole life with male-centric stories.
/adds brownies
*Accepts brownies and runs away*