Oh so you had seen some of the earlier episodes but then started this time with 4? So you had some foundation for what you watched? (Had you seen S2, or at least Surprise/Innocence? Because when Buffy wakes up next to Riley in bed for the first time in The I in Team, her surprise on waking and finding him in bed with her just breaks my heart a little.)
BTW, my partner won't watch Buffy, either.
I suppose I was really focusing on the slayer side and Giles when I used that phrase.
Gotcha - and I'm on my autopilot "Joyce was important too!" mode, whether it's appropriate or not. (tis a thing with me lately.)
My mum was very capable and did things back then, that women weren't supposed to like painting the house and wall papering. I grew up 'knowing' that if I wanted to do something I could, because of my mum.
She sounds like my mom - my mom was "mom and dad" even when she was married; she did almost all the work around the house, lawnmowing, household repairs, laying fiberglass insulation, etc in addition to childcare, laundry, cooking etc. I think she enjoyed laying insulation more than cooking at the time. (Now she enjoys cooking because she's not having to feed five other people every day, I think.) There's that phrase that women are trying to "have it all" but what I see in my own life, esp among working class women is not that women "have it all" (or even try to) but that they are "doing it all". Which is to some extent our own fault in not expecting men to really shoulder the burdens, or teaching our sons to do so. Hopefully that's changing to some degree.
One thing I learned from my mom was how to love - however imperfectly. When she was first freaked out by my relationship with my sweetie (less about the lesbian part than the age gap, I think) I told her that I am able to love because she taught me how to, and that meant a lot to her. And it's one of those "intangibles" that doesn't get considered or recorded because it doesn't add to the national GNP.
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Date: 2013-04-18 02:39 pm (UTC)BTW, my partner won't watch Buffy, either.
I suppose I was really focusing on the slayer side and Giles when I used that phrase.
Gotcha - and I'm on my autopilot "Joyce was important too!" mode, whether it's appropriate or not. (tis a thing with me lately.)
My mum was very capable and did things back then, that women weren't supposed to like painting the house and wall papering. I grew up 'knowing' that if I wanted to do something I could, because of my mum.
She sounds like my mom - my mom was "mom and dad" even when she was married; she did almost all the work around the house, lawnmowing, household repairs, laying fiberglass insulation, etc in addition to childcare, laundry, cooking etc. I think she enjoyed laying insulation more than cooking at the time. (Now she enjoys cooking because she's not having to feed five other people every day, I think.) There's that phrase that women are trying to "have it all" but what I see in my own life, esp among working class women is not that women "have it all" (or even try to) but that they are "doing it all". Which is to some extent our own fault in not expecting men to really shoulder the burdens, or teaching our sons to do so. Hopefully that's changing to some degree.
One thing I learned from my mom was how to love - however imperfectly. When she was first freaked out by my relationship with my sweetie (less about the lesbian part than the age gap, I think) I told her that I am able to love because she taught me how to, and that meant a lot to her. And it's one of those "intangibles" that doesn't get considered or recorded because it doesn't add to the national GNP.