A guy on one of the other forums gave it a rather bad review (which, fine, you can't please everyone) he expressed the bizarre opinion that I could not possibly be a real lesbian because no real lesbian would be a Spike fan or a Spuffy shipper.

WTF??? *brain explodes*

Well, as I don't play softball or wear flannel, I guess I'm not a Real Lesbian and this 17-yr monogamous relationship I've been in with another woman is just a figment of my imagination? I mean come the FUCK on, that's just one of the most ignorant things I've ever heard in my life.

Did you bust out an essay on WHY lesbians ship straight 'ships or why straight women write m/m slash - because of the dearth of well-rounded, satisfying female characters of any orientation on tv, the preponderance of male and het characters and relationships, the sense of "equality" in m/m relationships (and I'd argue, the gender-bending aspects of Buffy/Spike); and oh, by the way, it is possible to identify deeply and totally with a character of a different gender/age/race/species etc?

Or did you just let him stew in his own stupid-juices?