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red_satin_doll ([personal profile] red_satin_doll) wrote2013-10-18 04:13 pm

Buffy and Tara fanart by Comlodge (Oh my!) The good stuff just keeps on coming.

So here's the sequence of events (and there will be a pop quiz later, so pay attention please):

1) [livejournal.com profile] clockwork_hart1 asked for fic requests in order to occupy herself whilst in the hospital. I asked for a Buffy & Tara friendship fic. She responded with "Talk to Me (That's What Friends Are For)" . In case you missed my pimpage the other day it's a "missing scene" that takes the dross of one of the mind-bogglingly worst episodes in the series, "As You Were" and spins pure gold from it. Buffy goes to Tara after the credits roll and offer each other compassion, kindness, and gentle understanding, punctuated by tears and laughter. The story also makes explicit a point that, like every other connection between them, is underplayed and overlooked: Both Tara and Buffy have, at some point in the series, believed themselves to literally be "demons", to be "wrong" at their very being and been scarred by that belief. (And [livejournal.com profile] clockwork_hart1 wrote this while recovering in the hospital, people. R-E-S-P-E-C-T!)

2) [livejournal.com profile] comlodge read the story and created a gorgeous Buffy and Tara friendship banner for it. There's something in the delicate coloring that emphasizes the emotional fragility of the characters, even as the text from the Burt Bacharach/Carol Sager song assures us of the strength of their bond. She used one of the screencaps from that last scene in Dead Things of Buffy and Tara in Buffy's living room. (You know that scene, right? The one that smashes my heart into tiny pieces no matter how many times I watch it, and is one of the reasons Dead Things was the very first ep I had to watch when I finally got internet in my new apartment?) [livejournal.com profile] comlodge is known and loved mostly for her Spike fanart but every time she turns her attention to other characters in the 'verse she knocks it out of the park.

ETA: And she did another Buffy & Tara banner just before that I only just now saw - same scene, but the moment where Buffy's head is in Tara's lap, sobbing "Please don't forgive me." Very different tonal feel from one banner to the other; both of them equally gorgeous. It's not who she's sleeping with that is, at heart, the issue here IMO; it's her shame and guilt regarding her own behavior. (And has anyone else noticed that Joyce's photograph is next to Tara in that scene btw?) Imagine that she's sleeping with Xander; or random strangers off the street and the scene plays exactly the same way.

MORE, PLEASE. I have to say that all these "presents" and creativity, one idea leading to another, a work in one medium inspiring another and who knows what either one will inspire in turn? This is one of the finest aspects of fandom - of this fandom in particular.  Also of interest to me if nobody else: Thanks to [livejournal.com profile] clockwork_hart1 I have been a beta for the first time ever in Buffyverse fandom. That's a present (to me) in and of itself.

SO NOW I'M GOING TO MAKE ANOTHER REQUEST: A BUFFY and TARA FANVID. Something that emphasizes the parallels between them. Or one that focuses on Tara's role in the Buffyverse outside of W/T: sister, friend, mother-figure; the stranger who truly "sees" (Who are You); the bridge between Buffy's symbolic sisters (Willow and Tara) and her literal sister (Dawn), who replaces Faith as the "harbinger of Dawn" (Restless); the girls marked out as "different, demonic" and carry that shame within themselves; and so forth. I can provide the meta ideas, if need be.

Anyone want to take me up on it? 

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-18 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I really have to go back and watch the show because it's always been about the Spike and I really skipped a lot of the rest

I really do encourage it. you understand Buffy so much better I think that way. (Remember that in Joss' canon in the movie and in a flashback in Becoming, Buffy had another Watcher, Merrick. He died fighting a vampire, right in front of her; she had to burn down the school gym at Hemery High to defeat him. So there was already a downward social trajectory for her from Cordelia-esque cheerleader to outcast when she walks into Sunnydale HS.) You can really see in the long term how Spuffy and Bangel are opposites of one another, how the relationships play out; her earlier traumas, etc: being killed by the Master the first time and dealing with the PTSD - a thing to remember really, Buffy has untreated PTSD all the way through the series. She has to lie to her mother and everyone else except Giles and the SG about her identity, per Giles' instructions. Her relationship with her father is tenuous. etc

Buffy can be a bit boring

Boring? I don't find her that at all; she's not as flamboyant as Willow or Spike; but also seeing the early seasons will give you some perspective on that. the events of the show alter her drastically. A lot of that, honestly is due to her friends, and Xander, well-meaning as he is, plays a key role in the mixed message of "I admire you and love you but I'll judge you harshly if you don't meet my expectations." I'm not saying she's not at fault either; they are both kids from broken homes with little guidance.

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-18 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I sometimes think she is too linear and therefore leans to the masculine, in her thought patterns.

That sounds like a description of Willow, the "computer programmer" who approaches magic as if it were an IT program she can manipulate; and who is more "intellectual", and in some ways aligned with Giles as "research girl." Buffy esp early seasons is very creative, intuitive and feminine. She saves the world - a lot - in part because of her ability to put clues together, listen to her intuition and come up with novel solutions. That's part of what makes her different than most Slayers up to that point; Kendra represents the WC approved model trained to be nothing but a killing machine, an automaton (like the Buffybot.)
Even in later seasons she's still very nurturing, if not in "obvious" ways all the time; she's not as "soft" like tara is. But tara doesn't have the burden of the entire world on her shoulders either. (And how "soft" does Buffy have to be? How many tears does she have to cry, to be accepted by her friends, by fandom?) Buffy takes care of Dawn, protects her friends, sacrifices her life twice for friends and family as well as the world; that's a VERY stereotypical "female" trait in our culture. I would have hated the show to end with the Gift: another female martyr.

I wonder if that is because they were writing her like a man trying to make her the hero


Again - see the early seasons. In S1 they emphasized her girlyness in part for the novelty of it - "the blond girl in the alley who is the one killed first in the horror movie turns and is the hero instead". I don't think "hero" is masculine or feminine. I don't think "hardness" or closed-offness is inherently masculine either.

Joss is not as much a feminist as he likes to think. The big arc is: Buffy has to become closed-off and lose (or think she's lost) her ability to love ONLY to open her heart again right at the end. THAT'S her "hero's journey". The shipper in me delights in that, the feminist wonders WHY is "learning how to love" the most heroic thing Joss can come up with for a female hero? That's not the arc for male heros in general; achievement in the world is the masculine arc most times. buffy has to confirm her ability to relate (esp to a man) and connect/share power (the Potentials), men are expected to confirm their individuality as heros.

I do recall from past conversations that women who are 'too masculine' is an issue for you. I'm not sure where that line is drawn, though or how you define that?

As a lesbian, I'm aware of the history of lesbian women in this society who are considered "mannish" or "masculine" even if they aren't "butch"; or are "usurping masculine priviledges." So I'm somewhat sensitive to the implications of that. (People will assume that I haven't wanted to have children because I'm a lesbian, for instance, which assumes that I am not a "normal woman" and that "normal women" of course want children. Rather than, I just happen to be someone who doesn't want kids, doesn't believe I can raise them and doesn't want to be an abusive mother and bring more hurt into the world.)

But I digress....

[identity profile] clockwork-hart1.livejournal.com 2013-10-18 11:00 pm (UTC)(link)
I would have hated the show to end with the Gift: another female martyr.

Right? A lot of people say the gift would have been a great finale, given that it brings Buffy's journey - as a hero and a slayer - comes to it's logical (see: fatal) conclusion. I call bullshit.

Yes, The Gift is a rather magnificent episode, one that I do really like, but it shouldn't be the end.

The whole point of Buffy and her legacy was to make girls feel strong, let them be their own heroes (well, I think that's what Joss was aiming for, anyway), and so to just let her die, the sacrificial lamb, as it were, is complete nonsense, particularly as the outside world - within the verse - would still have no idea of the impact she's had. She'd fade into obscurity as being, just like what you said, "another female martyr".

Okay, now I'm breathing.

WHY is "learning how to love" the most heroic thing Joss can come up with for a female hero?

Again, THIS. That is awful, right? While, as a character, it can be argued Buffy's power stems from love, there are also consistent points that suggest not loving is a slayer's downfall. Look at the autonomous Kendra - it's made clear throughout that she's been all but starved of affection, and Buffy's caring perplexes her; guess who dies less than a year into her Slayerhood, appearing in only four episodes? Then Spike's comment in School Hard is just as telling, "A Slayer with family and friends. That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure." This coming from a guy whose studied Slayers, killed two.

Sorry, is my feminism showing?

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 12:18 am (UTC)(link)
ETA: I just had some more thoughts about Kendra and Faith going off your comments. Will have to wait until Monday to post, alas!

Sorry, is my feminism showing?

Hell yes AND I LOVE IT Agree with EVERY SINGLE WORD. PREACH ON!
Edited 2013-10-19 01:02 (UTC)

[identity profile] clockwork-hart1.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 03:05 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, I lie in waiting 'til Monday, then!

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-21 08:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Oops, have to make it "tuesday" sorry hon. I get so freaking distracted by all the stuff in my inbox.

[identity profile] clockwork-hart1.livejournal.com 2013-10-21 08:33 pm (UTC)(link)
Aww, that's fine. Not like I'm going anywhere...

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-22 02:16 am (UTC)(link)
*snorfle*

[identity profile] comlodge.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I know it's not the same, but I've read quite a few of the transcripts to get quotes or to just understand something for a story line. I used to get a shock when I started reading the scripts from eps I haven't seen because I found out all those fic authors I thought were making up interesting plots were actually rewriting plots from the show. *grin*

I didn't really mean Buffy is boring. I'm not sure what word I wanted - just that she doesn't like surprises and it takes a long time for her to 'see' someone.

[identity profile] red-satin-doll.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 11:05 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I'm going to beat the drum again to encourage you to watch the entire thing. Note that S1 is VERY different in tone, more "campy", closer to the movie version (which you DON'T need to see if you haven't); I think Joss was still deciding on the tone of the show, as if he hadn't committed one way or the other. Prophecy Girl pretty much settled that question.

And the parallels are amazing - Restless refers back to Puppet show in it's imagery twice. The entire show is so dense in it's imagery and each season builds on the others, it's more like a novel than most tv shows I've seen.

Giles is a bit different in S1 at first - tweedy, incompetent; he says in the Witch "That was my first spell" etc. I don't think they had come up with the Ripper backstory yet, based on what I see onscreen.

Re: Buffy "takes a long time to 'see' someone" - are you referring just to Spike and the later seasons? I can see what you mean in the early seasons with Angel, not realizing who he is at first (but then he keeps information from her); but in many instances she's astonishingly compassionate AND intuitive. In episodes like The Hyena, Ted, Living Conditions, she knows intuits that something is off, that Xander is bespelled or she's dealing with demons or bad forces when everyone else (Giles and the SG) dismiss her suspicions. Conceptualizing her entirely through the lens of Spuffy misses huge chunks of her story.

[identity profile] comlodge.livejournal.com 2013-10-20 07:34 am (UTC)(link)
I will get teh earlier seasons when the coffers refill. They're a long way down the list at the mo though.

I suppose I was not blown away by the whole 'blonde teenager' is the hero and saves people rather than the victim because by the time I watched Buffy other heroine's have stepped up in fiction and film, I'm past identifying with teenage angst overly much, I probably don't like to be reminded that I still haven't grown up (though I have decided that I'm not) and because I thought that the show went too far the other way and portrays all the male charachters as almost needing rescue themselves.

Society is so very good at righting wrongs by going overboard and reducing someone or something else's power. It's my problem with feminism. Don't get me wrong, I know that women are the most discriminated against because every race and religion is into it. But women are not empowered by decreasing the power of men. We will only ever be empowered when we stand side by side. Course that is way easier said then done but I guess it is happening slowly, except when we look at history the progress of women in the last decades of last century into this century has been quite enormous.

I'm kinda hoping that the internet is going to take us forward in all manner of discrimination so that we don't need laws to stop discrimination - they really don't work in the long term - we just expect to treat everyone the same.

I'm glad you love Buffy. I like her. I like her with Spike. I like them as partners. I like them as equals though I kinda think she will always run the show. Experience has taught me it is so. I've never found my equal - is that a bit of a big head? Hubby and I confer but for some reason he almost always defers. I'm the handy one. I'm the planner. I'm the one who is supposed to do it all. God now I'm off rack and whinging.

Anyway, Buffy had heaps of shit to deal with that her friends simply were to busy with their own shit to deal with. I've read fic that rewrote such things but I kinda like the arcs that played through the show because I kinda like that Spike eventually got a soul for a very right reason. I don't think he could be redeemed until he got back that little shit that sits on your shoulder and says 'it's wrong'. He really was, in the Jossverse, a leashed bad demon. Now I'm quite happy to go off canon for a vampire story but I like the story arc that Spike went through. It's what brought me to the show and kept me there.

Buffy got to grow as well. They all did though story space restricted the telling of a lot of that which is why it is great to have fanfic to fill it in. I do a lot of angsty stuff with Spike because there is a ton of angst there. I always wonder what he is doing when he is not on screen. Buffy has a hard enough time dealing in S6 and she has friends who do offer some distraction and a tad of support.

Apart from Clem, who we see from time to time, Spike really is on his own. Rather like we often are while we are trying to get by.
Anyway, I gotta go feed the horses. :D