(((I am really emotional and probably shouldn't be talking about this. It's been a really hard fucking year for ladies.)))

But this NEEDS to be said. Everything you've said? That's where I'm at.

Nail, head. Head, desk.

And these are exactly the patterns I identified (or was trying to) when I spoke about the way the Dawn & Spike friendship is conventionally portrayed. It's not just about sexual/romantic ships. It's the overwhelming gender-centric pattern.