FYI - I apologize if I came across a little strong (ok, let's call a spade a spade here: "bitchy"?) as I sometimes do when defending Buffy. I can go - overboard obviously, or assume I know what someone means when I don't.
I don't think I have ever had a surprise party, so I don't have any experience in that regard.
Re: Buffy, I can imagine that after the events of Empty Places, that it would take a while before she didn't feel slightly nervous when walking into a room full of people. On the show she goes right back in and gets down to business, as always (world-saveage and all that); so I would think that only afterwards would she have time to really experience and process the trauma/grief of those entire last days. (But then isn't that true for most of us - take care of the immediate situation and THEN realize how it's affected us?)
Re: Ok, now I think I get what you mean by surprises
I don't think I have ever had a surprise party, so I don't have any experience in that regard.
Re: Buffy, I can imagine that after the events of Empty Places, that it would take a while before she didn't feel slightly nervous when walking into a room full of people. On the show she goes right back in and gets down to business, as always (world-saveage and all that); so I would think that only afterwards would she have time to really experience and process the trauma/grief of those entire last days. (But then isn't that true for most of us - take care of the immediate situation and THEN realize how it's affected us?)