Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you've had to endure that. You've shown courage and strength, and you should be proud of yourself. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt like hell. I've been there - watched people turn away from me because of one misspoken (foolishly worded) statement, or even for reasons I can't possibly fathom. It always hurts.
Folks here have been incredibly kind and supportive when I've talked about the apartment fire and I hope to pass that on. Whether the source is physical or mental, trauma is trauma. There is no timetable for dealing with the short and long-term wounds and losses.
And I find I am having less and less patience with people who can't find it in their hearts to forgive as I get older, particularly when it comes to something that doesn't amount to a hill of beans, frankly. You read the wonderful post on the subject rahirah wrote a while back, I hope?
To still feel a sense of gratitude for the gifts others have given you, even after they have turned away, is such an amazing and admirable quality of character IMO.
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Folks here have been incredibly kind and supportive when I've talked about the apartment fire and I hope to pass that on. Whether the source is physical or mental, trauma is trauma. There is no timetable for dealing with the short and long-term wounds and losses.
And I find I am having less and less patience with people who can't find it in their hearts to forgive as I get older, particularly when it comes to something that doesn't amount to a hill of beans, frankly. You read the wonderful post on the subject
To still feel a sense of gratitude for the gifts others have given you, even after they have turned away, is such an amazing and admirable quality of character IMO.
Anyhoo, I'm going to PM you if that's ok.
Now I'm crying too. (But I'm ok with that.)