I haven't read it yet, alas! I've been a bit mentally exhausted, but it's on my list, it just my take me awhile. :)
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.)
Thankfully, Jamie got loads of comments from the Bechdel Comment Ficathon where it was originally posted. And that's actually her first fic she'd ever written (and I remember tempting her into giving this a go? So part of me wants to TAKE CREDIT lol but no she's brilliant), so she might not have been on folks' radars yet. But still, it's glorious and more people should read it.
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom
You know what, tho? I imagine that's because Tara and Spike were the partners on the receiving end of abuse (at least, if one fails to recognize how equally bad Buffy and Spike were to each other). So I imagine it's very much 'these two deserve better and they deserve better together'. I think it probably is more about the traditionally feminine too inasmuch as Tara's more open emotionally and very emotionally supportive (I think she views this as her function, what she has to offer). Sigh.
I didn't plan to link to your meta so often here but it just sort of happened?
Aw that requires no apology. It's very flattering! And thank you for thinking of me on my birthday. No worries about prezzies. <3
I think when it comes to writing, that honesty and openness can be a hard place to reach, but that it's a courage found through surrender and acceptance. Looking back, part of the reason I was able to write that when I did was because I felt I'd turned a corner in my life. Climbing back to my feet. And writing that was a part of standing again. And perhaps the most shocking turn was that as I waited for the first comments to my essay, worrying that people would be uncomfortable or look at me in a negative light, instead I found an immense solidarity and meeting of minds and hearts. My being open brought others to be open. When I go back to read those comments, it still gets to me -- there's a powerful and moving intimacy captured there.
I hope you do find your time and place to write. I'm in your corner looking forward to reading it, of course.
Coincidentally, I finally read your essay on Berthe Morisot; I love (feminist) art history but I hadn't taken the time before, I think because I was seeing that painting as rather ordinary "image of a woman at her toilette" that the male artists of the day so loved to do. I hadn't ever taken the time to deconstruct it as you have. I'll have to post my thoughts over there when I've got a better hold of them in my head.
OH. See, I cannot get enough of this subject! Please throw your thoughts and feels my way, if you're so inspired. I'm an eager audience. :D
INTERNET LIBRARY. BEST. It's a bit like discovering boxes and boxes of old letters between friends, isn't it?
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The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.)
Thankfully, Jamie got loads of comments from the Bechdel Comment Ficathon where it was originally posted. And that's actually her first fic she'd ever written (and I remember tempting her into giving this a go? So part of me wants to TAKE CREDIT lol but no she's brilliant), so she might not have been on folks' radars yet. But still, it's glorious and more people should read it.
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom
You know what, tho? I imagine that's because Tara and Spike were the partners on the receiving end of abuse (at least, if one fails to recognize how equally bad Buffy and Spike were to each other). So I imagine it's very much 'these two deserve better and they deserve better together'. I think it probably is more about the traditionally feminine too inasmuch as Tara's more open emotionally and very emotionally supportive (I think she views this as her function, what she has to offer). Sigh.
I didn't plan to link to your meta so often here but it just sort of happened?
Aw that requires no apology. It's very flattering! And thank you for thinking of me on my birthday. No worries about prezzies. <3
I think when it comes to writing, that honesty and openness can be a hard place to reach, but that it's a courage found through surrender and acceptance. Looking back, part of the reason I was able to write that when I did was because I felt I'd turned a corner in my life. Climbing back to my feet. And writing that was a part of standing again. And perhaps the most shocking turn was that as I waited for the first comments to my essay, worrying that people would be uncomfortable or look at me in a negative light, instead I found an immense solidarity and meeting of minds and hearts. My being open brought others to be open. When I go back to read those comments, it still gets to me -- there's a powerful and moving intimacy captured there.
I hope you do find your time and place to write. I'm in your corner looking forward to reading it, of course.
Coincidentally, I finally read your essay on Berthe Morisot; I love (feminist) art history but I hadn't taken the time before, I think because I was seeing that painting as rather ordinary "image of a woman at her toilette" that the male artists of the day so loved to do. I hadn't ever taken the time to deconstruct it as you have. I'll have to post my thoughts over there when I've got a better hold of them in my head.
OH. See, I cannot get enough of this subject! Please throw your thoughts and feels my way, if you're so inspired. I'm an eager audience. :D
INTERNET LIBRARY. BEST. It's a bit like discovering boxes and boxes of old letters between friends, isn't it?