Thanks so much hon for stopping by! Have you read my Buffy & Tara meta yet from the other day? I'm really very pleased with the response it's gotten. fray_adjacent even created some new female centric icons like the "Family" one I'm using right now. there are fans interested in the ladies, it's just so easy to fall into the same old riffs (ie Buffy & Spike, etc) Even I'm guilty of it.
I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE.
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.) But I had forgotten about it, isn't that awful? I should do a Buffy & Tara rec list. It's hard ruuger asked for some recs on the subject a few months back and I didn't have much to offer. On AO3 when i put in Buffy/Tara I got 25 fics the other day. Put them in as individual characters and you get all the thousands of fics that happen to have both of them listed but don't necessary have them interacting with each other. I love the balance of the two of them.
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom. Which sort of confirms for me the fact that a lot of people don't like Buffy, but also I think that people see Tara as being more traditionally feminine, "nicer" and therefore a more appropriate partner for Spike? But "niceness" has a cost. If any one of the ladies in the verse - as in real life - swallow their anger, surpress it, they're "closed off", they're not feminine enough, If they express their anger they're told they don't have a right to be angry, that they're not feminine enough.
I actually have a first (very rough) draft of a B/T fic, which I promised laynoyee first glance at, as she inspired it in our conversations. If you haven't visited her LJ or tumblr, please do; she's wonderful to talk and brainstorm with re: Buffy, Dawn, Tara etc.
I didn't plan to link to your meta so often here but it just sort of happened? (I had really meant to do a little birthday gift for you weeks ago and - didn't. My bad. The image of Buffy & Tara from OAFA I used the other day was originally supposed to be for you. *gulp*) Your meta on Buffy and depression has been on my mind a LOT lately, and I've reread it several times because it really resonates with me very strongly, but also I find myself coming up against the same sorts of things that inspired you to write it in the first place. I always wonder, do I have the same sort of courage Emmie had? Am I ready to fight for Buffy, and in doing so fight for all of us who love and identify with her? I hope so, but I doubt myself a lot.
Coincidentally, I finally read your essay on Berthe Morisot; I love (feminist) art history but I hadn't taken the time before, I think because I was seeing that painting as rather ordinary "image of a woman at her toilette" that the male artists of the day so loved to do. I hadn't ever taken the time to deconstruct it as you have. I'll have to post my thoughts over there when I've got a better hold of them in my head.
(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)
I'm always commenting on old posts and old fanfics. I think of the internet as the biggest library in the world.
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I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE.
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.) But I had forgotten about it, isn't that awful? I should do a Buffy & Tara rec list. It's hard
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom. Which sort of confirms for me the fact that a lot of people don't like Buffy, but also I think that people see Tara as being more traditionally feminine, "nicer" and therefore a more appropriate partner for Spike? But "niceness" has a cost. If any one of the ladies in the verse - as in real life - swallow their anger, surpress it, they're "closed off", they're not feminine enough, If they express their anger they're told they don't have a right to be angry, that they're not feminine enough.
I actually have a first (very rough) draft of a B/T fic, which I promised
I didn't plan to link to your meta so often here but it just sort of happened? (I had really meant to do a little birthday gift for you weeks ago and - didn't. My bad. The image of Buffy & Tara from OAFA I used the other day was originally supposed to be for you. *gulp*) Your meta on Buffy and depression has been on my mind a LOT lately, and I've reread it several times because it really resonates with me very strongly, but also I find myself coming up against the same sorts of things that inspired you to write it in the first place. I always wonder, do I have the same sort of courage Emmie had? Am I ready to fight for Buffy, and in doing so fight for all of us who love and identify with her? I hope so, but I doubt myself a lot.
Coincidentally, I finally read your essay on Berthe Morisot; I love (feminist) art history but I hadn't taken the time before, I think because I was seeing that painting as rather ordinary "image of a woman at her toilette" that the male artists of the day so loved to do. I hadn't ever taken the time to deconstruct it as you have. I'll have to post my thoughts over there when I've got a better hold of them in my head.
(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)
I'm always commenting on old posts and old fanfics. I think of the internet as the biggest library in the world.